Yesterday I got to hang out with three very important people from my past life. It was an interesting day because I didn’t see them all together, but they were all from the same era of my life.
As our conversations went on and we caught up on what we’ve missed with each other and asked about all the people we knew, the phrase “life is messy” kept coming up again and again. We even said that if someone would have told us twenty years ago all the things that would unravel in everyone’s lives, we would have said “No friggin way!”.
But as interesting as the stories of all these crazy events were, I found myself more fascinated about the different ways everyone put their pieces back together. Some found religion, some self-medicate, some are successful in their careers, some are divorced, some never married, some push people away, some are homeless, some went to prison, some found Yoga and some send gorgeous Christmas cards every year to make us all believe they are living the American dream.
As I drove home last night, I had a sense of sadness that life can be so hard and at any moment the whole thing can fall apart. But as I woke up this morning, I felt this sense of pride in myself and happiness for all of us who don’t give up and search for positive ways to sustain.
Life is uncertain and messy and the only thing we can control about it is how we respond. You can clean out your closet and leave everything lying on the floor reminding you each day of your mess, or you can get rid of the things you don’t need and put the things you love back in, all organized and pretty. If we keep the door shut, it will never get dirty again, but then we wouldn’t get to sport all our hats and stroll around in all our favorite shoes.